When you consider choosing parents and making an adoption plan, you play an active role in every part of the process.
Some parent(s) consider adoption when faced with a pregnancy decision for these reasons:
- Not ready to be a parent.
- Can’t afford to raise a child.
- Don’t want to be a single parent.
- Unsure about having an abortion and are not ready to parent.
- Can’t afford to raise another child.
- Want to finish school, focus on work, or achieve other goals before parenting a child.
- Believe adoption is the best chance for their child to be well-cared for.
- In an abusive relationship or were sexually assaulted.
- Want to develop an ongoing relationship with their child without the responsibility of full time parenting.
There are many families throughout the country that are hoping to build their families through adoption. There are laws in every state guiding adoptive families and protecting you, so it’s important that you speak with an adoption agency or attorney. After reviewing profiles completed by adoptive parents you can select the parent(s) that best fits your hopes and dreams for your child’s life.
A pregnant woman or couple considering this option is free to choose where the adoptive parents live, how many children are already in that family, their religious background, economic level, and whatever the birth-parents feel is important. When deciding if adoption is the right option for you, it is important to educate yourself so that you fully understand what it is and how the process works.
How soon do I have to decide?
You have the duration of your pregnancy to make a decision. However, if you are considering adoption, you should begin prenatal care as soon as possible. The caring staff at Obria Medical Clinics can come along side you while you consider your options. We provide pregnancy testing services and if the test is positive our nurses can confirm your pregnancy with an ultrasound exam and provide you with ongoing prenatal care. We also provide adoption agency and attorney referrals when you are ready to take that step.
Adoption is the legal process by which parental rights are permanently assigned to an adoptive parent(s). Depending on how much communication you want to have after the adoption you may choose to have an Open Adoption (usually an ongoing relationship), Semi-Open Adoption (usually letters and photos) Closed Adoption (no communication).
The terms Open, Semi-Open and Closed refer to the level of contact or communication you may have with the child or the family after the adoption is finalized. This may also include communication with other birth family members including your family, the birth father and his family.
Open Adoptions can have many forms, including partial or full disclosure of identifying information, meeting the adoptive parent(s) and meeting other family members. The biggest difference is that, with open adoptions, there is usually an ongoing relationship after placement. The extent of the openness depends on what you and the adoptive parent(s) decide you are both comfortable with.
In Semi-Open Adoptions some or all identifying information may be shared but usually only letters and photos are exchanged. The birth mother and the adoptive parent(s) may meet in person. This gives you the opportunity to see that your child is doing well but not play a role in your child’s life.
Closed Adoptions used to be the only option. The birth mother would place her child for adoption and there would be no contact at all. Records were sealed for the privacy of both parties. Today, closed adoptions usually occur if the birth parent specifically requests no contact or if a government agency has terminated parental rights.
Who can I talk to about adoption?
Talking with you partner, someone in your family, a friend, a religious advisor, or a counselor can be helpful when making your choice. Obria clinics have specially trained staff that can give your accurate information on all your options.
How does it feel to place a baby for adoption?
It is normal to have different feelings after placing your child for adoption. Lots of people who chose adoptions are happy knowing that their child is living with a family who loves and cares for them. Some people find that the sense of loss is deeper than they expected. It is normal to feel grief after the adoption is complete. You may also feel reassured and relieved. Talking with a counselor who has experience with adoptions and seeking help with other women who have been through adoption can help you work through your emotions. Many times adoption agencies offer ongoing counseling and support. No matter which type of adoption you decide on, it is important to find people who will support you throughout your pregnancy and adoption placement.
You should never feel uncomfortable or pressured by an adoption provider. The professional and caring staff at Obria Medical Clinics can provide you with adoption referrals and help you during your search as you consider this option. Adoption facilitators guide you through the legal process and can assist in notifying and obtaining consent for the adoption from the birth father. Attorney fees are paid by the agency or the adoptive parent(s), not by you. The compassionate team at Obria is here to consult you on all your options.